tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post5924659958082308958..comments2023-09-29T05:32:04.308-07:00Comments on StrangePegs: Alone in the SilenceAndrew Leonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-85717872466363552802012-06-16T08:10:21.004-07:002012-06-16T08:10:21.004-07:00Briane: Okay!
Alex: See, that third person sounds...Briane: Okay!<br /><br />Alex: See, that third person sounds like he has an idea he should go write himself.<br /><br />Pish: Actually, many of the studies seem to indicate that extroverts have a harder time with public speaking because it's something that they feel impacts them more. They're more invested in their success (not appearing foolish), so it causes a greater barrier.<br />Parts of the book were interesting, just not enough of it.<br /><br />Donna: No problem :) Glad you liked the review.<br /><br />Callie: A huge section of the book is devoted to how introverts can learn how to fake being extroverts in order to get by. I really didn't like that about the book.<br /><br />L.G.: That's one of the most agreed upon aspects of introversion, dealing with large amounts of people drain us, not charge us.<br /><br />Joyce: Thanks for stopping in!<br /><br />Shannon: I think the issue was that she wanted to write about her fear of public speaking and the various she's dealt with that but, in her mind, it was all tied to being introverted. It's one of those assumptions people make and have a hard time seeing past.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-29814147337871045932012-06-15T22:09:17.421-07:002012-06-15T22:09:17.421-07:00Sounds like the book was just not at all well thou...Sounds like the book was just not at all well thought out or put together. She had a valid idea, but couldn't follow through. And she apparently had no idea what she was talking about!<br /><br />I'm an introvert, but I can often force past it, and can actually come across as an extrovert, though I am always exhausted afterwards from the sheer effort of putting that face on. My mom is an extrovert, and everyone always expected me to be just like her (SHE didn't, but others did). <br /><br />Funnily enough, I don't enjoy public speaking, but I have no problem standing in front of a group of people or taking the reins. However, if I have to put together a speech, practice it, THEN present it, I am terrified. Spontaneously, I have little trouble being in front of people. Weird, huh?Shannon Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934641808195675935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-33002643915816283572012-06-15T16:47:48.548-07:002012-06-15T16:47:48.548-07:00I know what you mean about unexpected expectations...I know what you mean about unexpected expectations. I've been surprised to love or hate specific books.<br /><br />I've written five novels but published none. It can be quite frustrating.<br /><br />http://joycelansky.blogspot.comCatch My Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338761214938263819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-33221796778735830422012-06-15T16:26:15.486-07:002012-06-15T16:26:15.486-07:00Sorry the book was a dud. Hate that when I've ...Sorry the book was a dud. Hate that when I've got high expectations and then the read falls flat.<br /><br />And I'm definitely an introvert in that I NEED alone time. I don't dislike people and I'm not really shy (see online activity! ) But I can't be in big crowds for long periods of time. It drains me to have to interact with people for more than a few hours.Luanne G. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762881276976395955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-34631942311133358782012-06-15T11:27:07.765-07:002012-06-15T11:27:07.765-07:00"Have you ever looked forward to reading a bo...<i>"Have you ever looked forward to reading a book? (...) Whatever it is, though, you finally read the book, and wow such disappointment."</i><br /><br />YES I HAVE HAD THIS EXPERIENCE. It is a truly disappointing experience.<br /><br /><i>"The introvert/extrovert thing is not something that's cut and dried like that. It's known as the introvert/extrovert spectrum, and it's called that for a reason."</i><br /><br />I had never heard that, but it's not super-surprising. Sometimes people are surprised I tend to describe myself as an introvert because I've developed good skills at "faking" extroversion for several hours at a time. (Never would have gotten through food service otherwise...) Some people have certain ideas of what introversion is, and simply won't be swayed to accept that it's not black-and-white.<br /><br /><i>"...she spends the entire first section of the book talking about how we shouldn't have to act like extroverts to get along in our society, and I fully support this. [Introverts should not have to pretend to be extroverts to get along. That's just wrong.]"</i><br /><br />THIS. I very much agree with this.<br /><br /><i>"And you know it's true. Everyone says you need your pack of betas and CPs or you just can't write a novel. You'll get better work if you have more and more feedback. It seems so sensible. And it's hogwash. You can't write a book by committee. Not a good one, anyway."</i><br /><br />There's definitely value in getting good feedback, but the key word there is "good." Depending on what I am working on, I have different people I might ask to read it. And I am OK with ignoring someone's advice/suggestion if it's not in line with my vision/goal. I do think there is VALUE in FEEDBACK, but there's definitely such a thing as too much feedback.<br /><br /><i>"Go lock yourself in a closet or go down in the cave (or, even, the cafe, if that's how you do it) and write your book."</i><br /><br />...and bring a pair of giant headphones to more effectively ignore the people who try to use cafes as their personal blind date scene...Callie Leuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09535505792102190920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-57404527713155331252012-06-15T10:15:23.057-07:002012-06-15T10:15:23.057-07:00Correction - I'm in the car. "something ...Correction - I'm in the car. "something not so great."Donna Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13738281869266957726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-53540688185042274112012-06-15T10:13:59.008-07:002012-06-15T10:13:59.008-07:00This was long but I read the whole thing because l...This was long but I read the whole thing because like you I don't like speculation touted as fact. And I believe and agree with EVERYTHING (yes, everything) you said. I'm an introvert but do not have any qualms about public speaking. I would have been disappointed in this book. Thanks for a great review of something. It so great.Donna Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13738281869266957726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-80796893495011721112012-06-15T08:23:34.737-07:002012-06-15T08:23:34.737-07:00well that's a bummer. sounds like an interesti...well that's a bummer. sounds like an interesting book. I DO think that a fear of public speaking is pretty typical for introverts and that public speaking is an extroverted trait. I think you are the atypical one on that point.<br /><br />Gonna give you a shout out today!Pish Poshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13777846744497845820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-87981420295258620602012-06-15T03:44:05.125-07:002012-06-15T03:44:05.125-07:00Sorry the book fell flat. Don't have a fear of...Sorry the book fell flat. Don't have a fear of public speaking. Just don't like to do it, but if I have to, I can get through it.<br />I did run the outline for my third book past my three critique partners, just to be sure the idea didn't suck. (So much pressure for this last book to rock!) Jeffrey said it was great, Rusty made one suggestion (which I used), and the third person made a radical suggestion that would've involved rewriting the entire outline.<br />Needless to say, I'm down to two critique partners now.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-41146279737090848192012-06-15T03:41:32.384-07:002012-06-15T03:41:32.384-07:00I will have to come back and read this when I have...I will have to come back and read this when I have time. <br /><br />I owe you book(s?) in the blogathon: email me and let me know what they are, as I'm going to send out the prizes this weekend.<br /><br />(And then hopefully finish that thing up.)Brianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01616494058636881575noreply@blogger.com