tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post4135639931836010368..comments2023-09-29T05:32:04.308-07:00Comments on StrangePegs: Friends and Unfriending (an IWSG post)Andrew Leonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-31703852834555303492013-01-05T00:54:18.520-08:002013-01-05T00:54:18.520-08:00Cherie: You know, you're the only person to me...Cherie: You know, you're the only person to mention that, which kind of surprised me.<br />And, um, I'm Andrew. >points up< That's Rusty just up there.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-23917634135969012442013-01-04T18:07:36.759-08:002013-01-04T18:07:36.759-08:00Hi Rusty. I love your clever play with IWSG, which...Hi Rusty. I love your clever play with IWSG, which I always have to slow down to type. <br /><br />I don't pay too much attention to the numbers on FB, Twitter, GR, etc. I definitely wouldn't take it personally if someone unfriend's you. They're the ones missing out.<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by my blog.Cherie Colyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205065477147957455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-21957898782448116002013-01-03T14:48:13.262-08:002013-01-03T14:48:13.262-08:00Rusty: I think it's probably whatever thing we...Rusty: I think it's probably whatever thing we focus on to see what kind of response we're getting from people. Another reason I probably shouldn't bother with twitter.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-66705450222027603812013-01-03T13:29:10.350-08:002013-01-03T13:29:10.350-08:00I tend not to care about Facebook. I thought it wa...I tend not to care about Facebook. I thought it was awesome back when it was me and 15 people I really enjoyed catching up with. Since then it's gotten ridiculous. I get all bent out of shape about twitter though. Rusty Carlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887821877521181811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-58023634034451364482013-01-03T12:18:11.362-08:002013-01-03T12:18:11.362-08:00Ravena: Well, yes. And no. Because you never can t...Ravena: Well, yes. And no. Because you never can tell... But yes. And no!<br /><br />Winopants: I want it NOT to bother me, but, yeah, right under the skin. I think I'm pretty good at myself.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-32670095967352699132013-01-03T12:00:57.121-08:002013-01-03T12:00:57.121-08:00Glad you wrote about this, seriously something tha...Glad you wrote about this, seriously something that drives me nuts as well. As much as I try to shrug it off, being un-friended gets under my skin. I did read something once on The Everywhereist, a successful blog; She was pretty much like, you're going to have haters no matter what. Her blog is so innocuous I couldn't imagine her ever receiving negative mail, but it sounded like it had happened quite a bit. If you're not yourself you will never find your nicheAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-60874712940323212152013-01-03T10:09:05.702-08:002013-01-03T10:09:05.702-08:00Well if you can't work out who they were, they...Well if you can't work out who they were, they can't have meant that much to you in the first place! FB doesn't bother me, but sometimes I lose followers on twitter and I'm like WHY NO LOVE? Generally it's because I don't auto follow back, and in that case, like this case here, it's not much of a loss! rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472552752365062115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-76262749302151051152013-01-02T22:21:15.996-08:002013-01-02T22:21:15.996-08:00Nancy: Well, you're a good friend, and I'm...Nancy: Well, you're a good friend, and I'm happy to have you around me!Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-73534305841542699982013-01-02T19:56:15.685-08:002013-01-02T19:56:15.685-08:00I would never unfriend you! I love seeing your fa...I would never unfriend you! I love seeing your face pop up in my updates. But really, if you can't figure out who unfriended you, then they really weren't your friend in the first place. After all, you have no idea who they are. That's no loss, trust me. You only want good friends around you. Happy New Year, Andrew!Nancy Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05735642863696266005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-41386281791118498012013-01-02T18:37:07.098-08:002013-01-02T18:37:07.098-08:00G_G: Yeah, I know that happens, but those show up ...G_G: Yeah, I know that happens, but those show up when they do it, so you can see who it was.<br /><br />Tamara: That's kind of it, though; I don't recognize the people, just the number, which is what makes it so crazy-making!<br /><br />Cally: I think there were other words, too, but that one was the one most tossed around. And, you know, the bad review was because I was jealous which is what made me a douche.<br />And, see, I'm not on Twitter, or I'd probably be noticing those numbers, too. :PAndrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-60425808195592784132013-01-02T18:04:20.509-08:002013-01-02T18:04:20.509-08:00I can't believe someone called you a douche be...I can't believe someone called you a douche because you gave them a bad review. I'm assuming the review was justified because your reviews have also seemed quite balanced to me - even if you are slightly obsessed with grammar ;-) . <br /><br />I don't notice the number of Facebook friends so much, but I'm a bit obsessive with my number of Twitter followers and The Big Smoke's overall rating on Goodreads. Cally Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08313803959936813426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-27457244438045905082013-01-02T18:04:13.938-08:002013-01-02T18:04:13.938-08:00I think the person above is onto something. I know...I think the person above is onto something. I know that, personally, I get pretty sick of facebook. <br /><br />I like my blog because I generally recognize the people who comment or, even if I don't, it's a short click away to read all sorts of interesting things about them. I can know them, even if it's only through the internet.<br /><br /> FB is different, way more surface stuff. I seriously doubt I'd even notice if three-quarters of my FB friends unfriended me. Which probably means they should--but that's a whole other story. <br /><br />So, clearly, given that--I'm not the one for advice on this. But you sound like a funny, nice guy and I'm now following your blog, which is way better than following you on FB cause it means I'm actually interested in what you have to say. :)<br /><br />Good luck and I hope 2013 brings you lots of new friends!! Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04070551912944266954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-76305116334959496552013-01-02T16:51:56.509-08:002013-01-02T16:51:56.509-08:00I know several people who have deleted their Faceb...I know several people who have deleted their Facebook so maybe that is it. They just tired of Facebook. Gossip_Grlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06603645371306284338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-76395438348401624992013-01-02T16:37:06.374-08:002013-01-02T16:37:06.374-08:00Shannon: I feel the same about blogger, but it ten...Shannon: I feel the same about blogger, but it tends to be more stable. I'm sure my FB account still has gaming bloat.<br /><br />Jess: I can understand, but my FB account is too tied into my writing stuff, now. I have people that follow me on FB just for the book updates and stuff like that, so I can't just drop it.<br /><br />Nicki: Me, too! But I am. My head can't make it go away. It kind of sucks.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-14718645910663844042013-01-02T16:20:31.949-08:002013-01-02T16:20:31.949-08:00Really? I just...it's hard for me to understa...Really? I just...it's hard for me to understand why someone so secure in everything else would feel insecure about this. I'm sure 90% of the unfollows are for something like deleted accounts or someone just culling the folks they haven't interacted with for a while. If it was something personal, you probably would hear about it in a different way to know they're mad - like the douche w/ the review.<br /><br />Buuuut reading this did make me think to check my Twitter followers after I had a bout of irritable politicism...looks to be about the same. *whew*Nicki Elsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11412032684225126973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-54117113448009528822013-01-02T13:23:00.337-08:002013-01-02T13:23:00.337-08:00If it's any consolation, I'm planning on d...If it's any consolation, I'm planning on dumping my Facebook account soon. Not because of the friend thing (I couldn't even tell you how many I have), but because it feels like an obligation that I don't want to deal with anymore. I'm bad at updating photos and responding to people's news and feeling guilty when I don't hear about things and people say, "I posted it on Facebook!" I just don't check it that often. But you've got so many friends, so I'm guessing you use Facebook as a networking tool in addition to keeping in touch with real life friends and family...so dumping your account probably isn't an option. So this comment contains no relevance for you. Sorry :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14121018905141253640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-31115284603572665812013-01-02T13:19:37.826-08:002013-01-02T13:19:37.826-08:00Funnily enough, now that FB has become a numbers t...Funnily enough, now that FB has become a numbers thing, I don't care how many "friends" I have. Once it became less about friends and more about just accepting just about any request I get, I stopped caring. I have no idea how many I have.<br /><br />On the other hand, I get insecure and depressed every time I lose a Blogger follower. Sob.<br /><br />Shannon at <a href="http://thewarriormuse.com/" rel="nofollow">The Warrior Muse</a>Shannon Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934641808195675935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-62073710197791238562013-01-02T11:56:36.530-08:002013-01-02T11:56:36.530-08:00Luanne: See, I only follow someone if the blog loo...Luanne: See, I only follow someone if the blog looks like something I might actually read whether they've followed me or not. When I get new followers, I do go check out their blogs, but it's not a guarantee of a reciprocal follow. Maybe I shouldn't say that out loud?Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-39737416988965441872013-01-02T11:54:04.553-08:002013-01-02T11:54:04.553-08:00Michael: Again, I know that stuff in my head. That...Michael: Again, I know that stuff in my head. That's why it's an insecurity, because I haven't been able to talk myself down.<br /><br />Tony: Oh, but, um, I don't necessarily pay that much attention to what -other- people are saying.<br />heh<br /><br />Kimberly: It is! I hate it.<br />GFC works the same way, and, yes, they can.<br /><br />Briane: I have a lot of people that only comment sporadically. I suppose I don't pay as much attention to the commenters, because I know a lot of people don't do it all the time.<br /><br />And oh man, you're FB comment made me laugh so hard!Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-44867596677835325972013-01-02T11:49:21.987-08:002013-01-02T11:49:21.987-08:00M.J.: I did actually lose a bunch of followers all...M.J.: I did actually lose a bunch of followers all at once after some post or other once. I was kind of like, "really? that was offensive?" Blogger doesn't tend to fluctuate like FB does.<br /><br />Tammy: Man, I would never give you the chance to "accidentally" bump into me (unless you got me from behind). You ride a motorcycle. Intimidating!<br /><br />Alex: I wouldn't worry about it if I -knew- that was why!<br /><br />ABftS: Yeah, I've had one of those, too. It's a weird thing.<br /><br />Cassie: Well, I know that's true... in my head!<br /><br />Rebecca: Exactly! I am whom I am! Except online where everyone should hang on my every word!<br /><br />Callie: I used to be that way with FB, but I made my first ever book sale through FB and have quite a few people who have friended me over there because of my writing, so, at this point, I feel rather compelled to pay attention to those numbers.<br /><br />Cathy: Oh, man, that would be stirring things up again, and I don't want to do that. I've already been the subject of at least three flame threads on FB over that review. Those are the ones I know of.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-6037804380206990912013-01-02T11:30:01.925-08:002013-01-02T11:30:01.925-08:00I don't do Facebook, but it's the same on ...I don't do Facebook, but it's the same on Blogger. I rarely follow anyone anymore because so often the people don't follow me back and I'm left wondering why they didn't like me. :( I mean, I follow back almost everyone who follows me on my blog first, unless they post in a foreign language or are really offensive. Gah, it makes me neurotic too. At least on Twitter there are tools that help you see who unfollowed you. On Blogger and Facebook you're just left guessing. Luanne G. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762881276976395955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-29612231972542497832013-01-02T11:24:42.231-08:002013-01-02T11:24:42.231-08:00I don't worry at all about people unfollowing ...I don't worry at all about people unfollowing me, unless they are people I actually care about, in one sense or another. I track my Twitter followers loosely; I hover around 580. I pay no attention to who "follows" my blogs, as you know -- I had to add that feature for you.<br /><br />What I do notice are commenters. If a regular commenter drops away, I wonder about it. I had a commenter for a long time, "Petri Dish" who just up and stopped. She cropped up one time in the last year I think, and I've always wondered about her, or other commenters who dropped away. <br /><br />But I don't really take it personally. I think some people comment in order to get followers/comments back, and I don't do that. I read blogs, etc. by people who sustain my interest. So some people might comment in hopes that I'll comment back, which I'll usually do once out of politeness but not thereafter. <br /><br />So I wouldn't worry if people unfollow you, is my point. Also, I'm not on Facebook or I'd friend you there, but I got kicked off of Facebook for being too social.Brianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01616494058636881575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-25369634934762976472013-01-02T11:14:15.997-08:002013-01-02T11:14:15.997-08:00I've often wondered if GFC can "unfriend&...I've often wondered if GFC can "unfriend" people and could my follower numbers go down because of it? I eventually decided I'd rather not know or else I too would be panicked over why someone would unfriend me. <br /><br />I've also tried to figure out who's unfriended me on FB - it's such a time suck! ;)Kimberly Gabrielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588782441929008886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-61337404883578794192013-01-02T10:26:07.765-08:002013-01-02T10:26:07.765-08:00If this is something that really bothers you, just...If this is something that really bothers you, just know that social media is pretty fickle. People you follow can be so random, so that you discover that what you thought you were going to get ends up being something else entirely, and not what you're actually interested in. My Facebook account is bloated with a lot of people gibbering about things I don't care about, the same with twitter. I imagine I come off the same way. The whole thing is a little overrated.Tony Laplumehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07854455859399339169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7658526372996117205.post-37509767215537353662013-01-02T10:03:04.711-08:002013-01-02T10:03:04.711-08:00I get unfriended quite a bit. I used to let it bot...I get unfriended quite a bit. I used to let it bother me, but then I realized that people that unfriend me are not ones I want around anyway. They totally disagree with everything I say both political, emotionally, and the kinds of things I like. So my advice is to not let that bother you. Your true friends will be there to support you and you can't please everyone.Michael Offutt, Phantom Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10557969104886174930noreply@blogger.com